I am worried that I will never get involved in another relationship. I was with a guy that I loved for a year. Since we broke up, I have had difficulty finding the right guy, as I have become quite selective.

I ended the relationship with the guy because I was very jealous and didn't want to get hurt. He seems to be happy with the break-up because when I call him he doesn't have much to say to me.

Calls only for sex

He only calls when he wants to have sex. I still do things for him, but he doesn't appreciate me and has begun to treat me with disrespect. I still hang on even though, I know he is using me. He tells me he loves me only when I do things for him. What should I do?

Although I am not involved in a relationship, I still want to be with him. He has never given me anything, but that doesn't bother me. Even though I love him, should I continue to be with him or end what we have? All I get from him is sex. I have never cheated on him.

He can be nice at times, but he shows no love and he does not give me any money. I work so I can take care of myself but he works occasionally and can give me money if he wants, but he only thinks of himself. I am attractive, but not interested in dating other men as I don't believe I will feel the same for the person as I do for this guy.

J., Manchester, Jamaica

Dear J.,

You have declared that you know the man is using you and that he doesn't show you love or affection. He only meets with you when he wants something or wants to have sex but still you are determined not to give him up. I can't help you as you insist on staying with your mean, unresponsive man.

When you are tired of being used, you will change your mind. Then you can write me back.

Pastor