I am 34 years old and a mother of four children. From as far back as I can remember, I have faced abuse and, even now, am still being abused by my children's father. The abuse gets so bad that I feel like killing myself or running away, but I can't, because I love my children so much and I have to be strong for them.

I am a trained practical nurse. I have my subjects but I am unable to get a job. I would like to get a job so that my children and I can get out of the situation. I can't leave them behind as their father will make them suffer. I am also seeking to buy a house in the area that I live as my family will assist me. I have not found one as yet. I am currently living in hell and praying for a change to help myself. I know you get a lot of requests, but I am asking you for help. Thanks in advance.

Y.S., St Andrew, Jamaica

Dear Y.S.,

It is unfortunate that you did not leave this man long ago. When you found out that he was an abuser, you should have ended the relationship. Instead, you have allowed yourself to have four children by him. I understand what you have written and the concern you have for your children. However, if your relatives are now willing to help you to purchase a house, they would have been willing to help you find a place to live without this man who you consider to be your children's father. He is a beast in human form. And you should not be living with him.

Trust God

May God grant you the courage to leave him as soon as possible. Tell your relatives that you would be happy to have them pay rent for you and your children until they are able to buy a house for you. People who are constantly under stress become physically ill. You will head in that direction if you do not trust God and move out on your own.

Please understand that I am not saying that you should leave your children, take them with you and if he refuses to support them, drag him through the courts.

Pastor