I am 34 and have been in a relationship for the past five years. The girl is 25 and acts very childish. She is also feisty. Her mom told me that when we first met. They don't get along as she is often rude to her mother. She argues about everything and this makes me unhappy.

I try to make things right and look out for her good. I got a job for her but now that I am not working she hides her money and sometimes I am left at home hungry. When I used to work, I gave her money, even though she was working. She treats me badly and is unkind. We have done nothing but argue for the four years we have been living together. I try to show her the right way, but she behaves haughtily.

Please, tell me what to do.

MH, Kingston, Jamaica

Dear M.H.,

You knew this woman had her ways about her, yet you entered into a relationship with her one that has lasted for four years. What are you complaining about? Her own mother told you about her, yet you chose to be with her. I wouldn't be surprised if part of the problem you have with this girl is that you have been trying to control her. You talk about showing her the right way, why should she accept your way as the right way? Perhaps she has good reasons for not giving you money. Hurry up and get yourself a job and stop complaining about her.

Pastor