Dear Pastor,

I am a 27-year-old young lady who has been married for the past four years. My husband and I have two children together. The problem is that I do not love him anymore nor do I have any feelings for him. We live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, but we don't have sex. We live together for the sake of the children. I cannot stand being with him and, whenever he is around me, I get upset or angry at him.

I need your advice on what I should do. Should I take my children and leave this man alone? I am awaiting your response.

K.R., Panama

Dear K.R.,

I wonder what is really going on here. I wish you had said more. You haven't accused your husband of cheating, neither have you said you are cheating. But at the same time, nothing is going on. There is no love in the relationship. You are not an old person. From time to time you would feel the need for sex, but instead of having sex with your husband, you hate him.

Fireworks.

It is possible for couples to have non-sexual relationships, but that generally happens when they are in their senior years. When young couples do not have sex and at the same time sleeping together, one may be ill. Sometimes, the man may be suffering from a dysfunction, but normal people, especially when they are young, and married, and sleeping together, hug each other and have fireworks.

If you hate this man so very much but you are staying together for the sake of the children, the children will soon find out that your husband and you are not doing well and it will affect them. So, although you say that you hate your husband, I think that you should seek professional help.

Interestingly, you have not given a clue whether your husband loves or hates you. I am indeed puzzled. I just wonder if you have another man. Hey, let me add quickly that I am not accusing you, I am just wondering.

Pastor