My ex-girlfriend moved out of our apartment five months ago to live with her aunt because she says she could not make me happy, because she was not happy. She moved out because, for weeks, she could not bring herself to touch me intimately or have sex with me. She swears that it was not because she has found someone else or lost feelings for me, but because she needs time to figure out her life.

However, since she left, we behave more like friends and less like lovers. I still love her. She claims to still love me but had to leave to make me happy because she knew I was miserable living with her and not being able to touch her. She even comes over sometimes to spend time with me and even sleeps over without us having sex.

Now, I find myself falling back in love with her and I am getting tired of waiting on her to get over her issues, just so that we can have sex again. She keeps telling me that she is still not ready to resume physical contact with me and will only French kiss me.

Am I wasting my time with this girl or should I stick it out? I can never really be sure when she is lying. I do want to marry her later on in life.

M.R., Florida, USA

Dear M.R.,

I believe that this woman wants you to propose to her. She doesn't want to give you any more sex until you have made up your mind to marry her. She left your house because she was tired of that type of life. A visiting relationship, yes, but you're not going to get anything until you have proposed to her and set a date for the wedding.

You think you are smart but this woman is smarter. What she wants is to get married and she will make every excuse, but the day you marry her she will be a different woman. She has you on a leash.

Pastor