I want to commend you on the wonderful work you have been doing over the years and the help you've become for people worldwide. Your radio programme kept me awake at nights while I was attending school and during my training at teacher's college.

I am 20 years old and just completed a three-year teaching diploma at a prominent college in Jamaica. My boyfriend is 38 years old. He's not Jamaican. I love him with all my heart and I don't have to guess whether he feels the same. My family knows that he loves me more than I love him and that it would be easier for me to get over him than for him to get over me. I try not to disrespect him, in any way, even though I am not perfect.

With all that love between us, he's very insecure and panics when it comes to my safety. I am currently on vacation in another Caribbean island. One morning, for example, my phone called his by accident while I was asleep. He tried calling me back but hung up before I could reach the ear phone which was plugged in and on automatic answer. Not long afterwards he called back, sounding concerned. I tried to convince him I was okay but he didn't believe me. My mom was with me so he wasn't worried that I was cheating on him. He was afraid that I was sick or something.

Pastor, even if I tell him about a bad dream I had, he would get sick and start panicking, saying he's afraid of losing me. I don't plan to leave him any time soon, as he's my world, but I need to know exactly how to deal with him and his behaviour. If I don't text or call him in two hours, he begins to worry. If I say, "Beau, I have something to tell you later", instantly he starts to think I am about to break up with him. He will not eat or sleep until he hears what I have to say. Nowadays, I don't do that anymore.

It seems to me that the longer we stay together, the more he panics, especially when he thinks about not spending the rest of his life with me. Help me, Pastor.

A.S., George Town, Grand Cayman

Dear A.S.,

This man is definitely insecure and something in his past has caused him not to trust women. You need to lay the cards on the table. Tell him that it is either he is going to stop behaving like a boy and learn to trust you or you are going to move on. Tell him that you are stressed out by his behaviour. Tell him that you have confidence in him, therefore, he should learn to trust you. You might also add that he should consider going to a psychologist to deal with his emotional problems.

Pastor