I have always admired the way you assist people who write to you for help. I hope you can do the same for me. I am a 27-year-old woman living in Toronto, Canada, for the last 14 years.

When I returned to Jamaica in 2000, I met a man who is a friend of the family. To make a long story short, we now have a three-year-old son. He does not help me with the boy. He thinks because I live in Canada, he should not take care of his child.

Maintenance

He has a job with one of the island's liqueur factories. I am thinking of taking him to court for maintenance. I know he has three other kids, two living in Jamaica and one in the United States of America. I also know that he does not help with the one living in the USA. My son is the last child for him that I know of.

I will be going to Jamaica in December and would like my son to know his father. He last saw our son when he was a month old. So, please tell me what to do. Should I take him to court? I hope to see you in December. Much love.

K.N., Toronto, Canada

Dear K.N.,

I don't even think it makes sense to take this man to court. However, I have always insisted that men should support their children. But you know what, God has been good to you and you have carried this burden since your son was born and he is not starving. He will grow up to know that his father was only a sperm donor. And his father may regret not supporting him. If you were living in Jamaica, I would say drag him to court, but right now, you will be spending unnecessary money.

On the other hand, when you come to Jamaica, you can go to the Ministry of Justice and enquire how you can get support from this man. You can also visit their website. Unfortunately, I am not sure of their website address. Check it out.

Also, when you come to Jamaica, try and persuade him to send money to support his son from time to time. But, if you fail in all your efforts, let him keep his money. He won't be better off than he is right now.

Love you, darling. God bless you. Keep strong.

Pastor