In the pursuit of happiness, security, hype and show-off, many have sought to redefine and alter the sanctity of marriage.

Research has shown that the rate of divorce is alarming and the time from the altar to the divorce court is getting even quicker.

Though some may have to call the marriage quits for genuine reasons, there are those that treat marriage with a nonchalance that suggest say dem nu memba sey a before God dem go and tek di oath.

Carelessness

How can you marry someone and then in a month realise say yuh nu badda wa dem? Dat just sound like carelessness to me because an integral part of getting married is something called counselling. Mi ca'an understand afta all de big spen up of millions of dollars wey some people still owe fa, de marriage just come to nought.

Marriages are failing because people nah understand sey marriage thing fi work and continuous building to ensure its longevity. People jus na be true to dem self.

Secure dem pension

People a get married fi some corruptive reasons and that way it end up blowing up in dem face. True is a rich man nuff ooman a try secure dem pension, even though the man has no etiquette and snore loud enough to wake up the whole a stadium, some women get married anyway even though their hearts are not in it.

As fi di man dem even though you know she nuh want yuh, but true she pretty and will carry yuh off among your friends, even though she dunce like bat and fool fi spite, yuh marry har anyway. Marriage is not the problem is the people them that get involved. Mi hate hear people complain bout dem marriage wen a dem run in 'through likes'.

Nuff nah get together for the marriage, it's more about de wedding, the big nyamins, de frock, de big ring and to create the illusion that all is well. Even if dem fool di crowd, dem ca'an fool God.

Intimidate man

If the marriage is not working, I don't suggest that you sit in it, ca'an mi nuh join dem church deh. If a man and woman feel that they should get more out of their marriage and they are miserable and dissatisfied, then it's best to walk away. This, however, should be done after all methods of reconciliation have been exhausted and they see sey it just na work.

Ring pon finger should not be the focus because you might have de ring, but it a bun yuh finga. Many women need to understand that they should not pressure, coerce or intimidate a man into getting married. If you feel that you have shacked up long enough and produce enough children and you feel the ring will give you that added sense of security but yet is not forthcoming, then don't bad 'im up to get married. Do yourself a favour and leave since the ring means so much to you.

Some men just want the milk without the responsibility of looking after the cow. De shotgun wedding thing don't work and won't last. No one is perfect and there are cracks that reveal themselves after the fact because many men and women change after they say 'I do' and sometimes morph into persons that you cannot bear to spend the rest of your life with. It is important that people are open and honest about their feelings and their intentions because marriage is no joke. Try and start on the right foot so that the journey will be a long walk together.