I read your answer to 'Deaf Ear', and was not pleased with your response. Advising someone to go out on a date behind her boyfriend's back, because he won't marry her, after being with her for seven years, is like saying "two wrongs make a right". I believe that we women sometime allow men to get too used to the good life we offer them in order to keep them, and very few men want to do the right thing.

B.D., Toronto, Canada

Dear B.D.,

Can't you read. If you are disagreeing with me, you must speak the truth. My suggestion to the young lady who wasted seven years on a man who shows no interest in marrying her was, and I quote: "Perhaps you need to tell this man that if he is not going to marry you, you are going to start going out on dates. And you are not going to tell him whenever you are going, because you're tired of him insulting you by not responding whenever you mention marriage."

She would have already informed him that because of his attitude towards her, she has decided to date other men. Therefore, she would be under no obligation to tell him when, where and with whom she is going.

How, then, can you accuse me of saying what I did not say. Evidently you are one of those persons who believe that a man has the right to tie a woman down and abuse her anyway he wishes and she should "suck up" to him. Those days are done. This woman is not obligated to stick around with a man who has no plans for her and with whom she cannot have a proper conversation about the future of their relationship.

Pastor