I have been with my boyfriend for a few years and we have been through a lot. I have no doubt that he loves me, and I feel the same about him. A business opportunity recently came up for him, but the only person who can really assist him with the process is in love with him and wants him. She has gone out of her way to let me know of her interest in him and also claims to be involved with him.

Indiscretions in the past

He said she did not tell him that she likes him, and he has made it clear that he has a girlfriend. He has had indiscretions in the past, and I don't fully trust him, as he is capable of flirting.

I really need your advice on how to deal with this situation. Should I find a way to end the relationship or hold on? And, will it be worth it if I do?

I am very uncomfortable with him being around her, but at the same time I don't want to be responsible for him passing up what may be a great business opportunity.

May I have your advice, please?

D.B., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear D.B.,

I don't understand what you mean by this girl is the only person who can really assist your boyfriend in his business venture. I wish you had given the reason you believe that she is the only person. If you are talking about money, surely he should be able to get financing from the bank or any other reputable lending agency.

Other qualified persons

If she has certain expertise and you're afraid thatby working with her they may become intimately or sexually involved, suggest to him that there are other qualified persons he could use.

Of course, you are the one who has written the letter to me. And, perhaps, this man doesn't have these concerns at all.

Pastor