Let me start by congratulating you on the great job you are doing. I never ever dreamt I would be seeking advice for myself, but I guess life is full of surprises.

Insulting words

I have been in the relationship for four years. I am a 25-year-old female and my partner is 22 years old. Lately, I realise that he no longer cares about how I feel.

He insults me often. He has late night conversations with other females in my presence without caring how I feel about it. I am confused as I want to end this relationship, but I don't know how to. I anticipate your prompt response. Thank you.

S.R., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear S.R.,

Perhaps this man is tired of you and wants to move on. When men accept calls from women or call women and hold long conversations with them in the presence of their wives or significant others, they are being disrespectful. They are telling these other women that they are much more important than the women with whom they are living. And they are saying also that if their wives or girlfriends don't like what they are doing, they can go.

If you want to leave this man what is preventing you? What do you mean when you say "you don't know how to leave him"? If you really want to leave, you would pack up and leave because you are more important than anybody in this world.

Pastor