Dear Pastor,

I need your advice. I became involved with a man who I knew had his woman. Before the start of the relationship, I asked him how many children he had and he said three. I found out that his woman is pregnant for him which would make four. I can't do anything, but he lies to me. So I planned to move on with my life because I can't manage the situation and I figure that he is not going to leave this woman for me, even though we didn't have any closure.

I met a girl

I met a girl who I got to like very much and found out she is in a committed relationship already. During the relationship with her, I met a guy who I really like. He gives me money. He takes me to the supermarket and I have access to his house. The girl found out and she claims she is upset. But I don't think I can handle a relationship with a woman because if you go to a club, the things you do with men, you can't do them with her.

I want a man

So I told her that I want to move on with my life with this man. The first guy I told you about claims that he loves me, but I know nothing is there for me. I want a man for myself. The new guy also offered to send me back to school. And yes, the new guy knows about the girl and the other guy and he said he trusts me to be honest with him and to stick with him alone.

I'm asking for your advice, please.

N. B.,

Dear N. B.,

You are confused and I am concerned about you because when persons live like you, they become depressed and even try to take their lives. You have been in relationships with both males and females. This type of lifestyle is not good.

If this present man appreciates you, I hope he will treat you well. Stay with him alone. And may I urge you to read your Bible, pray and go to church. God will help you if you learn to put your trust in Him.

My prayers are with you. I know you would not have written to me if you did not need help. Do write to me again.

Pastor.

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