I am from St Kitts. I listened to your programme a few times and heard you speak on various topics: How men go about approaching women and how Jamaican men love to trick women. Many people will say that all Jamaican men are not nice, but I do not think so. And men will say that all women are the same, but we are not.

I am married to a Jamaican man, and I tell you, I am glad when he returned to Jamaica because I have seen changes in his behaviour that I would not have seen if he had stayed here. Sometimes people need to spend time apart from the ones they love to see how things will turn out.

I tried for several weeks to reach my husband, but he did not take my calls. He told his mother he did not want to speak to me.

I am currently involved with someone else and my husband seems to have found out. I stopped calling him a few months ago, but now he has been trying non-stop to make contact with me. I am not interested in his calls. All I want is his signature on the divorce papers I sent.

T., Basseterre, St Kitts

Dear T.,

Your husband blew it. He dissed you. On the other hand, you found a man pretty fast. You tried desperately to talk to your husband while he's in Jamaica, but he constantly insulted you by not accepting your calls, and his mother was aware of it. He's clearly not a wise man. No man should treat his wife with such disrespect.

So, you have made up your mind to divorce him. He doesn't seem to want that. As far as you are concerned, he can cry his eyes out. Is it too late for reconciliation? Are you sure you are not being too hasty in divorcing him?

Pastor