Good day to you. I need some advice from you. My problem is, I have a man in my life right now but I am not over my ex-boyfriend. I love him a lot. We were together for five years and we have a child. I keep remembering the good times I had with my ex-boyfriend, but can't let my present boyfriend know I'm still in love with him.

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend because I found out he was cheating on me. We got back together and I cheated on him. This new guy is very nice to me but he can't please me as my first love did. I try to make the relationship work, but I still secretly want to get back with my ex.

Pastor, could you tell me what to do? My new guy won't find out if I cheat on him with my ex, because I know how to cheat.

Thanks for your advice.

T., Manchester, Jamaica

Dear T.,

Stop fooling your present boyfriend. If you want to go back to your ex-boyfriend, do so. Don't give your present boyfriend the impression that all is well, when it is not. You say you know how to cheat - you are a professional in that area. Don't bother with that. Just let your ex-boyfriend know that you want to come back to him because you love him much more than your present boyfriend.

If your present boyfriend is as nice to you as you say, you need to be honest with him about your feelings and leave him to move on with his life before he becomes too emotionally attached to you. Always remember that it is wrong to only think about yourself and not others. I believe that one of these days you are going to crash. You are setting yourself up for a big fall.

Pastor