I have been dating a guy for nearly four years. We have been through thick and thin.

I was the one supporting him when his parents kicked him out and when he got locked up for about six months; I was there with him. Still he never appreciated the things I did for him and whenever I gave him anything, he would want more.

He was recently released from jail and showed no interest in me, he didn't. Sometimes he would say that he loves me, sometimes he would say that he does not. I wanted to end the relationship with him but decided against it thinking that this was the time he needed me the most. And I did.

Now he has told me that the relationship is over and I feel really ashamed because I have done so much for him, and this is the thanks I got.

I am a hardworking, A-student in college. I just want to keep focused and continue to do my best in my law course and get on with my life.

What do you think I should do?

S.W., Nottingham, England

Dear S.W.,

Wake up, you are sleeping. What you have written to me about is like a woman who is having a dream. He is a user. Get real.

This man kicked you in your rear and you could not see what he was doing. You have been working so hard to make life and going to school but you foolishly took your money and supported a man who did not care about you. You supported him before he went to prison, while he was in prison and now that he's out, but he has ended the relationship with you. He has no respect for you or your feelings.

Pastor