I am in Florida. I just got married to a Jamaican and filed his paperwork but he does not try to help me with the bills or mortgage. He gives a few dollars a week. Recently, I found him on the Internet looking at nude women. I spoke to him about the bills but he only takes his money to his family member's house to keep. I hope this guy is not using me to get papers because I truly love him.

Please, give me your advice. Thank you.

R. C., Florida, USA

Dear R. C.,

Why worry about the motive of this man you have married? Perhaps you should have considered certain issues before.

It seems to me that you have spoilt this man. How could you have a man, who does not assist in the paying of the bills? If he is giving his family members money to keep, he doesn't trust you and he will eventually leave you. Demand money from him to pay the bills.

Pastor