I have been with a guy for more than a year now. When I first met him, he didn't tell me he had his woman until three weeks after. I know he has kids because he told me. But I don't think I can stand being with him anymore. I don't want to share any man with another woman. But what he doesn't know is that I am talking to another guy, who is kind, sweet, and affectionate and treats me with respect (I have even met with him before also.) But the first man I am with thinks that I still love him a lot, when quite frankly, I haven't even been paying him any mind because I am focusing on my work now. He says that I am neglecting him, but pastor you don't know the half. Sometimes I like ignoring him, and letting him know how it feels.

What should I do, pastor? Please, tell me.

K.H., St James, Jamaica

Dear K.H.,

You are not easy. You want a perfect man. He shouldn't have kids. I can understand that you do not want a man who is a player and has other women. But while you will like to have a man with high moral standards, you have more than one man in your life.

Be careful. Don't try to play games with men. If you are not ready for a man in your life, let all men who show interest in you be aware of that. No double standard, please.

Pastor