Dear Pastor,

I have a problem. I have been involved with a married man for two years. We have a nine-month-old daughter but he doesn't seem to talk about his divorce again. He is a really nice person, but he's not the type you can reason with. If I have a problem with him and try to talk to him about it, he starts to tell me all sorts of bad words. He is not working so I can do without him because I pay all my bills and take care of my daughter and him, yet he still disrespects me as he likes.

Tell me, what to do pastor?

S. M., Manchester, Jamaica

Dear S.M.,

I suppose that this man used to promise you that he would divorce his wife before you became pregnant. Now that you have a child by him, he is not interested in divorcing his wife. He has got what he wanted from you and he is quite comfortable. You have his child, you are supporting the child and you are supporting him. What more can a man want? Life is good for him.

You can take all his insults and all his indecent language and still put food on the table for him. He is not even a real man. Biologically speaking, he might be, but nothing more. So why do you put up with his nonsense? How long are you going to allow him to be disrespectful to you? Of course, that decision is strictly yours.

Pastor