Dear Pastor,

I am a 27-year-old woman without a child. I had a miscarriage over eight long years now and I am concerned about bearing a child before I am 30 years old. I am confused because I am still in love with my ex-lover from school days. We got separated in September or October of 1999, but I never stopped loving him.

MAKING THINGS RIGHT

Each time I visit my mom, we would meet and talk about the past and what we can do to make things right. Now he is doing the farm work programme and is back in Jamaica now. His family has been a strong support even now. But the problem is he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. His family and I have talked about the situation and to my surprise, his girlfriend and his relatives have no relationship, while they considered me their in-law.

I am not happy with my love life anymore. My present boyfriend is the third guy for me. But the love I have for the first guy cannot be explained. I have never stopped loving him, up until today. I had a discussion with my present boyfriend about having a child and he does not want another child or he cannot produce one.

He has a 16 year old son, but the point is he is not telling me if he can produce or not. He is always telling me to just pray and have faith. I told him that when he is ready we are going to see a doctor. Pastor, please give me your advice as a father and counsellor.

S. F., ST Catherine, Jamaica

Dear S. F.,

What will your ex-boyfriend do with his present girlfriend. He has not told you that he is willing to leave her. You say that she does not have a relationship with his relatives. But she does not have to be very close with his mother to live in harmony with them. What makes you think that?

Pastor