Dear Pastor,

I am an ambitious young lady, who is in her final year in high school. I am in Jamaica, but I have a boyfriend who lives in Canada. We have been dating for a year. He stands by me financially but he is very jealous. Whenever he is around and my phone rings, he says that it is a man who is calling me. He is a very wonderful and caring man. He has children.

He and his children's mother are still intimately involved. He said the children's mother hurt him and I must not worry about her. She said I am too young to be with him but that has not stopped us from being together. We spend a long time together when he is in Jamaica and a long time on the phone when he is in Canada.

This woman uses the kids to try to keep him. They live in separate homes but he visits her house regularly to see the kids. He is responsible for their schooling. One of the reasons why we are together is that he is never too busy to talk to me. His family members in Jamaica are aware that we are having a relationship.

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I met another man, about a month ago. He too travels a lot. He has been in Jamaica for a while. He said he was deeply in love with me and wanted to celebrate my 18th birthday in November with me. He has two babymothers. He said he wanted me to be happy. He does freaky things to me anywhere and he doesn't care who is around. He wants me to get pregnant soon so that he can announce it on my birthday at a private party. He said he would get me back in school to further my education but he wanted me to have something for him.

I like him but he makes a lot of promises. I love my man in Canada. If I should get pregnant by this other man, I would be disrespecting my boyfriend in Canada big time and he has done a lot for me. Please, give me your fatherly advice.

Stuck between two, Kingston, Jamaica.

Dear Stuck between two,

You started your letter by saying you are ambitious but your words prove you are not. In fact, you are not even behaving as if you are intelligent. You are almost 18 years old and you should know that none of these guys truly love you. Both of them are having unprotected sex with you and both have their children and have not ended the relationships with the children's mothers.

You are aware that the guy in Canada is still intimately involved with the mother of his children. In fact, what you wrote in your letter, I cannot publish. If you really have ambition as you claim, please end the relationship with both these men and concentrate on getting a good education.

If you want to have a birthday party in November, when you become 18, do it on your own and do not allow this other man to organise or pay for it. If you allow him to do this, the price you may have to pay will be a heavy one. Remember, he wants to get you pregnant.

Pastor