Dear Pastor,

I think I have a very big pro-blem. I have been with this guy for the last five years. He took my virginity after three years.

He was so nice to me. He would call me every day, but recently I notice he has been ignoring me and only calls me whenever he wants sex.

He hangs up the phone on me whenever he feels like, talks to me anyhow and I can't do that to him. The next thing is that his mother is a bit 'some-timeish'.

I love this guy and I think he loves me too, but I don't know what the problem is. I try to talk to him, but it seems as if I am talking in vain.

L.M., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear L.M .,

This guy is probably tired of you. He has taken your virginity, and he knows that you would have sex with him at anytime because you are his girlfriend. However, he doesn't respect you and he is not treating you as a lady.

I suggest that you give this relationship a break. Let him have his space. If you run after him, you are going to get hurt. If he truly loves you, he will come back to you and tell you he is sorry. Then you can lay your cards on the table, but please stop fighting with him.

Concerning his mother, always remember that most mothers stand up for their sons, so don't say anything negative about him to her. Don't push yourself on her because you want her to accept you.

Pastor