Dear Pastor,

I am a 23-year-old woman who is married and lives with my husband of two years. But I have a problem. I think I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend in Jamaica. He calls me and wishes me well all the time.

He supports my thoughts and my plans for the future, like becoming an accountant and owning my own hair salon. He basically does the things I wish my husband would do to support me mentally.

Husband doubts me

My husband doubts me a lot, but many persons admire me as a smart, intelligent, young woman with my head on my body, including my ex. But my husband sees nothing. What should I do? I really enjoy a man who sup-ports and uplifts me instead of puts me down.

Please help me before I say or do something stupid to destroy my

marriage.

S., Delaware, USA

Dear S.,

If you feel that your marriage is threatened, tell your ex-boyfriend in Jamaica to stop calling you, and encourage your husband to go with you to see a family coun-sellor, so that both of you can learn to live harmoniously and give moral support to each other.

The marriage union can be a wonderful blessing to a couple, but there are ups and downs in marriage. Things don't always go smoothly.

Some men are not very supportive, and, like your husband, doubt that their wives have the ability to excel in whatever they do. On the other hand, some women from time to time demand too much from their husbands. So every couple should seek to maintain a balance. And a family counsellor from time to time can be of great help in assisting couples.

Pastor