Dear Pastor,

I have been with the father of my child for seven years. I love him with all my heart, but I cheated in 2005.

I regret doing it and I ended the other relationship. Every-thing faded until I got pregnant.

I confessed

Everyone started to tell my boyfriend that he is not the father of the child. I confessed that I cheated and I wanted him to forgive me. We had to do a paternity test and this proved that he was the father of my child. We have decided to stay together.

Reminding him that I cheated

I found out that he went on a date with another woman. I confronted him and he said that he does not care about what I want to do. Everytime we try to put the past behind us and move on, but people are there reminding him that I cheated. When this happens he gets upset and starts calling me horrible names.

J.D., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear J.D.,

I am sorry to hear that your child's father is always reminding you that you cheated. If he has forgiven you, he shouldn't listen to what people say.

Both of you have been together for seven years. Would he marry you or is he scared? You should ask him. Let him know that you are not pushing him, but you do not want to live as a concubine for the rest of your life.

I believe that you love your child's father. I hope that he will love you and make you happy. Go to church and serve God.

Pastor