Dear Pastor,

I am a 22-year-old woman. I live in the United Kingdom and I am presently married to a Jamaican man.

I love him and I gave up my all to make him a man. When we were getting married he was unemployed. He told me that he would get a job soon.

All the expenses

Over the years I have been with him I have paid for every-thing. I paid for the small wed-ding and half the money for my own ring. I took care of all the expenses. He is not working; therefore he has nothing to contribute.

Could have lasted

I believed that our marriage could have lasted. As long as there was love, determination and respect in the relationship I was all right. I wanted him to migrate to the United Kingdom and live with me.

He is always unsuccessful when he goes searching for employment. I thought that he would have some money saved up because I used to send a lot of money for him to live an extravagant lifestyle.

Sad to walk away

I ended the relationship five weeks ago. I told him to move on. This is because he is still unemployed and he does not want to come here. It is sad to walk away for someone who I love. He is not trying to get a job to make ends meet. Pastor, for my age my credit history is already ruined. I have many bills to pay. I am asking you to please pray for me. I read your column everyday and I see that your advice is solid.

T.A., United Kingdom.

Dear T.A.,

Your husband has to learn to help himself and not to depend on a woman. I hope that you can learn to save your money. I am sure you meant well when you paid all the expenses for your wedding.

Your husband doesn't want to live in the United Kingdom. And you are fed up with him because you have tried to make the marriage work.

May God direct your steps as you move forward.

Pastor