Dear Pastor,

I am a 14-year-old girl and I am dating a 21-year-old man who has a child. He is branded as a man that hits women, but he does not hit me. He treats me well and he would never put his hand on me. I want to give him my virginity. My friends say I should, but I don't know what to do.

Please, help me, pastor.

C. F., Canada

Dear C. F.,

You are only 14 years old and you should not be dating at all, neither should you consider this 21-year-old man as your boyfriend. He should be ashamed of himself. He knows that it is wrong for him to be dating you.

You say he is a woman beater. He is not a real man. A real man doesn't beat women. If he beats women, he will beat you too. You are naive. It is not time to think about sex.

Tell your parents or guardian about this man. Keep away from him. Don't be alone with him at all.

Pastor