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Dear Pastor,

I am going through a little drama and I hope you can help me.

I met a guy a month ago and, so far, I think I have made a mis-take already, maybe even more, but there is one incident that is bothering me. I think I was moving too fast.

Meal and drink

He was the one who initiated the relationship and, instead of allowing him to prove to me how `much he likes me, I now feel like I am the one pushing for something more.

We went out on a date and I was the one who ended up paying for the meal and drink. Within a few days, he wanted money to borrow. I loaned it to him and, up to now, he hasn't offered to repay the loan and had the nerve to ask for more money.

I am a very generous person, but I think this man only wants money. I have never asked him for anything. Sometimes, I have to wonder if he wants me to pay him to be in a relationship. I don't particularly have a problem in giving a man something, but I don't like it when it is constant and starts feeling like he wants to 'nyam' me out.

Not desperate and unattractive

I don't know why he is behaving like that. It's not like I am des-perate and unattractive, but I lost my soulmate tragically a little over a year ago. He reminds me so much of him and I was so lonely. Whenever I send credit to his phone, he only calls to say he has received it. He always wants me to call him back.

Pastor, I think I want to end this relationship to protect myself from future heartbreak. What do you think?

T.L., St James, Jamaica

Dear T.L.,

You said you are not des-perate, but everything you have done shows that you are trying to buy love. You pay for the dinner when you go on dates. You give him loans and you send credit to his phone.

This man is in the relation-ship for what he can get. He has nothing to give. So, don't expect anything.

Pastor