Dear Pastor,

I am a 28-year-old woman in need of serious help with my relationship. My husband is not pleasing me anymore. All he wants to do is have oral sex with me. In the beginning, I loved it, but now it is boring. I am thinking of getting a divorce.

Pastor, am I being selfish? Please, tell me what to do.

S.W., Toronto, Canada

Dear S.W.,

You say that is all he wants. Poor man. Perhaps that is all he can manage. He is your husband. Both of you should be able to communicate and learn how to please each other.

Don't get a divorce. Get help from a sex therapist. Both of you should go see one.

Pastor