Dear Pastor,

I am a 24-year-old man who is in a relationship with a teacher. The problem is when I met her she was dating a man who is twice her age. She says she loves me very much and I should get a job before she leaves this old man. She says she wants to marry me and have my kids in the future but I must have a job first. What bothers me is that she is still sleeping with the old guy and sleeping with me. Even though I spend more time with her than him, they still see each other. Many times, I get really angry and complain about our relationship. She is the only woman I have and I don't know what to do. I really love this woman.

What should I do, pastor?

S.J., St Ann, Jamaica

Dear S.J.,

You don't have what the old man has. The old man has money and can give the teacher what she wants. The teacher has to pay her bills. You cannot help her. You are not even employed. Do you understand, young man?

Follow my reasoning. The teacher sleeps with you, but the purpose of doing so is different from sleeping with the old man. His pocket is not empty. He can find more than bread and sardine. He can give the teacher money to do her hair and nails and pay her rent, which may be $25,000- $30,000 per month. You see why the teacher is not leaving the old man? What are you going to do?

Pastor