Dear Pastor,

I am 20 years old and I have been in a relationship for over a year. When my partner and I began talking, he had a job, but after a while, he stopped working. I told myself that I was not going to leave him and I stayed with him for a year even though he couldn't give me everything I wanted.

His mother who is now living in the UK wants him to get married and come over. When he first got the news, he told me what his mother told him.

He told me that he was not going to do it. After that he said he was going to get married to the girl and he wanted me to stay with him and wait for him after he got through.

During the time he told me that I should stay with him, he began pushing me away. It seemed as if he didn't care about how I felt about the situation. I was hurt because I loved him and still do. Weeks passed and I cried and cried. I tried to make something of what was happening, but I didn't know what to do. It was like I had this perfect relationship and in one night it all fell apart.

He stopped calling me. I literally begged him to let us meet so that we could talk, but he didn't meet with me.

Met someone else

During the process, I met someone else. He took me by the hand, tried to cheer me up, talked to me and tried to take my mind off things. A few days ago my phone rang and it was my ex calling.

He told me that he loves me and he wants me back and how he was sorry about what he did and he misses me. I asked him what about all his plans and he told me that he is still going to get married, but he doesn't think that he can love another girl as how he loves me.

Please, pastor, give me your advice.

L. G., Jamaica

Dear L. G.,

This man has made up his mind to marry another woman, but he wants to have you in his life. You are an intelligent girl. You know that he is trying to tell you that he wants his wife and you at the same time.

Pastor