Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old woman living in Jamaica. I have been engaged for one year. My fiancé lives in America. I was there with him for three months. I went there in order to get married. When I got there he was excited to see me and I was excited to see him. After a month, he started acting strangely, saying that he didn't think that he was ready for marriage, so we decided that we were going to wait a little longer. Now I am in Jamaica and I am not feeling the same as I used to feel about him.

The problem is I saw another guy who I like very much. He is a taxi operator. Another problem is that this guy doesn't know that I like him so much and I am afraid to tell him because I fear he will use me. And I also don't know how to tell my fiancé that I am not feeling the same way about him anymore.

T.S., Westmoreland, Jamaica

Dear T.S.,

If you are sure you are no longer interested in the man living in the USA, call or write to him and inform him. Both of you are growing apart, so you might as well end the relationship.

You should get to know the taxi operator before you show him that you are interested in him. He may have a woman and children, so be careful.

Pastor