Dear Pastor

I am writing for your advice. I am 22 years old and I have been living with a 37-year-old man for the past three months. His wife is living in the USA along with his eight year-old daughter.

He doesn't speak much of his wife. What I have noticed is that there were no clothes or anything for a female in his house.

He wants us to have a baby, but I really don't want to do so because it might cause problems. He might not be the man for me or maybe he still loves his wife.

The next thing is that he does everything for himself.

For example he washes, irons, cleans and buys dinner. I do help with the cleaning, but when I ask him whether he wants me to cook, he says that he has eaten already.

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If I go to my mother's house for a weekend, he gets all upset and say things like , "you gone to see a next man".

Does this man love me? Is there a possible future for us?

S.S., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear S.S.,

This man has you only for one thing and that is sex. Sex, sex and nothing more. He will not divorce his wife and marry you; no way.

He doesn't trust any woman. He does everything for himself. If you can't see the purpose for which this man is keeping you around, you are blind. If you wish to be married and be treated with respect by a man, end this relationship now.