Whenever we are having sex, he gives it to me rough, without kissing and caressing. We hardly communicate and the only time we do is only when he wants sex. I do love him but it seems like he doesn't love me. He doesn't give me money but I have to be the one giving him all the time. He has never introduced me to his parents or friends.

Pastor, what should I do? He is not romantic.

C.H., St Andrew, Jamaica

Dear C.H.,

A person doesn't have to be an 'A' student to do well. Some persons who were 'C' students in college become great leaders.

Concerning your boyfriend, perhaps after being in the relationship with you for three years, he is taking you for granted. You are there so, whenever he comes, you should be ready for him.

Perhaps the guy doesn't understand that you need to hear from him everyday, if possible, and you need to feel loved. At present, you are feeling used. He is giving you the impression that all he wants from you is sex. He just wants sex with no romance.

The brother doesn't know that he is going to cause you to be tempted to leave him, so talk to him. And get a counsellor for both of you.