I am a bit confused because if she doesn't want him anymore why should she care about how he feels? Shouldn't she be thinking about my feelings? She said no man has ever treated her as well as how I treat her and that is why she doesn't want to lose me, yet her child's father gets more respect than I do.

Sometimes, I think she takes my kindness for weakness. I love her with all my heart. We had a fight and I hurt her badly and she said it was over but I never gave up. We eventually started having sex again but she said we are not together. But why is she still sleeping with me? Why not her baby daddy if she wants sex and not a relationship with me? Is she using me or has she forgiven me?

Pastor, tell me what to do, please.

D.T., Georgia, USA

Dear D.T.,

Shame on you, never hit a woman. Even when she hits you, try your best not to retaliate. Walk away. Better yet, run from trouble.

You said you hurt this woman badly. She will never forget what you did. She might have sex with you because of the financial assistance you have given her. But don't fool yourself, she doesn't want you as a husband. And don't try to buy her love. It will not work. Her heart is with her child's father. As soon as she can do without your money, she will run you.