Dear Pastor,

I am a 21-year-old male, who has found himself in a very difficult position and need some help. You are the only person who can help me with this problem. I have a girlfriend, aged 20, who likes to party, but I don't. I told her she can party and enjoy herself because I don't want to stop her fun. This is how much I love this girl. Recently, I was on my way to her house. I called her and she did not answer her phone. I called her mom's phone and her mom told me that she was at her aunt's house. I tried calling my girlfriend again and she answered, saying she was around the back doing something and she didn't hear the phone ringing. I told her that her mom just told me that she was at her aunt's house. She admitted she was out with a high school friend. I forgave her.

On Sunday, I called her and she told me she was cooking and that was about eight in the morning. I called her again about 1 p.m. and she said she was cooking. That caught my attention because she was cooking rice from eight in the morning until 1 p.m., because she said her mom would cook the protein. I was suspicious. I called her at 7 p.m. and she did not answer. I called her younger sister and asked for her and she said she wasn't home. I called her back and she answered. I asked her where she was and she said in her bathroom. I asked her why no one else in her house knows that she's there and she could not answer. I hang up the phone and she text me about 9 p.m., saying she was at the movie with a friend and she was thinking about me. I even saved the e-mail she sent me after she came back from the movie.

Please, pastor, help me. Give the best advice. Should I stay in this relationship or leave her alone?

M. S., St Thomas, Jamaica

Dear M. S.,

Perhaps this girl is seeing another man. She is lying all the time about her whereabouts and that means she is hiding something. She is not coming clean.

Don't allow this young lady to make a fool of you. She is not a good woman and could embarrass you. Look to the Lord, in prayer, for a good woman.

Pastor