Dear Pastor,

I got the news this morning that my son's father has been killed. I don't know the details because I choose not to know the details. But I think something is mentally wrong with me. Or is it just normal? I feel no remorse towards 'the death'. I am neither happy nor sad. Is something wrong with me for this? Is it because maybe the reality has not sunk in? I really need your advice. The only thing I feel, remorse about is explaining this to my son when he reaches that age that he wants to know about his father. Am I cold hearted? Or is it normal?

Please, help me. Do I need to see a psychiatrist or something?

C.C., St Mary, Jamaica

Dear C.C.,

Perhaps the father of your son and you did not have a good relationship. Perhaps you didn't love him anymore because he was not a good father to his son. It might not be a bad idea if you were to see a family counsellor. I suspect that you would have to deal with hatred in your heart.

Pastor