Dear Pastor,

I am 33 years old and have been married for over five years to a man who I think does not have any ambition. I question myself because I am thinking of leaving him, and I want to know if I am wrong to want to achieve certain things in life. I will work any job to achieve, whereas my husband is just comfortable living hand to mouth. Everytime anything is to get done, I am always the one who has to find everything. It's frustrating on my part because in truth, I can barely manage. He has no ambition and I am so stressed out over it because I want a better life for my children and really need him to shake up himself and to try a little harder. I have suggested to him to go back to school and he hasn't even blinked. If I follow this man, I will get old in a rented house because he doesn't seem to care. I think I am going to leave him.

Give me your fatherly advice, please, sir.

H. B., Canada

Dear H. B.,

I am wondering why you married this man. Did you not see any hint during courtship of the type of person he is? If he didn't have ambition now, he didn't have it years ago.

May I suggest that both of you go to see a counsellor. If the situation doesn't improve, you need to see a lawyer.

Pastor