Dear Pastor,
I am a 19-year-old girl and I am living with my parents and going back to school to get some more subjects so I can be qualified for college next year. Anyway, I have a huge problem. I have a 'big' crush on my math teacher and it's killing me keeping it a secret. Well, the problem is, I already have a boyfriend. We have been together for five years now and sometimes I wish we would separate because he had cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend and I still think it's going on. Because of that, I am easily attracted to other guys, but I have never got close to any of them. I won't lie, I know my boyfriend loves me, but I still can't understand why he still continued with that girl.
Nervous
Ok, the story isn't about him, it's about my crush. I would love for you to help me get over it or to do something about it. When I am at class, I get nervous. When he comes near me I can't look him in the eye. He gave everyone in the class his email address and when I got home that night I added him to my messenger and the morning I spoke with him I felt so happy. I just can't handle this; it's like I am going through this all over again (meeting my boyfriend). He is 28 and I know he has a girlfriend. Why not, he's gorgeous, but that doesn't stop me from thinking of him right through the night. Whenever I am awake, I think about him first.
Please, help me. I don't want to do anything that I will regret.
N.S., St Andrew, Jamaica
Dear N.S.,
It is not unusual for a female student to have a crush on a male teacher. All teachers ought to behave professionally and not to give students the impression that they would want to be romantically involved with them.
Pastor
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