I am very troubled by this because I pride myself on my honesty and trust of others. Ever since I was a child I always tried to be honest with everyone. To know that someone in my life is being dishonest to me is tearing me up inside. I care for this man and he has never proven to be dishonest before, but also for the years I have known my friend she too has been honest with me, as far as I know. That is one of the reasons we are so close.

Pastor, I do not know whom to believe in this situation or how to handle it. They are both adamant that they are not lying and I have no way to prove who is telling me the truth. Please, advise me on how to handle this situation.

A. A., Ontario, Canada

Dear A. A.,

Accept what your boyfriend says. Your 'good friend' might have heard something, but it might not be true. Some folks only have to see a man and a woman on a few occasions and they take it to mean that they are lovers. That is why some men don't give women rides in their cars. They are afraid of being accused of having affairs.

Unless, you have solid proof to the contrary, believe your man. Time will tell if he is lying.