Why won't he leave me alone? If he's not willing to commit why bother calling me? It doesn't matter what I tell him or how much I curse him, he still calls. I'm just fed up. I love him, but I love myself more and there is no point in staying with someone who wants to play the field. He has told me that he loves me, but why can't he commit if that's true?

Why do men play these games, pastor? I'm confused. He can find someone else. He's educated and holds a good job.

S. R., USA

Dear S. R.,

This guy does not want you to leave him. Men don't like women to walk away from them, it hurts and affects their egos. They prefer to leave women in the cold.

Let us face the facts here. He doesn't want to leave you, but neither do you want to leave him. If you were determined to end the relationship, it would have ended long ago. You love the man, so although you told him to go, whenever he comes around, you continue to entertain him, comfort him, et cetera and then ask yourself why doesn't he commit?

Have you ever sought to find out if this guy is married? Is he living with a woman and has a child with her? Do you know where he is living? Have you ever been there? Check him out.