I now understand how my friend can say she loves two men because I feel the same way. I love them both for different qualities they posses, not to mention that my sex life with the two men is incredible. Why does it seem okay when this scenario occurs with a man, but if it is a woman she is seen as a whore? I am fearful of leaving one and ending up making the wrong choice. They both love me dearly and want to marry me. One lives with me and the other still lives in Jamaica. My friend who knows about the second one, thinks he only wants me for a British passport.

Please, help me pastor. I need your advice badly.

T. R., United Kingdom

Dear T. R.,

Now you have joined the lifestyle of your friend and both of you have secrets for each other. If you heard that your fiancé had become intimate with another woman you would be unhappy. And if he told you that he was doing so because he "needed more", you would tell him to go.

What do you hope to gain by having two men in your life? And why do you try to justify what you are doing by saying that a man may have two women and no one would condemn him? You see, each man wants to know that his woman is a lady. And there are some things a woman ought not to do.