Dear Pastor,

I have been in a relationship for almost two years and it is not going the way I want. The reason I say this is that every day, my partner and I quarrel with each other for even the simplest of things. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but at the same time, I am not 100 per cent happy in the relationship. He is not even in a steady job. When he does work, he has to wait for one month or more to get paid. And when he does get paid, it doesn't even last the time it takes him to get back to work. I am a Christian and a very happy one, but he is a sinner. I am not sure if that is the reason why we encounter so many problems in the relationship. I want to stop talking to him, but I don't want to hurt his feelings.

Please, pastor, I need your fatherly advise.

S.B., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear S.B.,

This man is struggling. He should try to get another job. The blessing of the Lord doesn't seem to be in this relationship. Perhaps this man should start attending church with you. Pray and do what you know is right.

Pastor