Dear Pastor,

I am a 28-year-old female living in the United States. I have two kids, but I have not been in love since I left high school. The problem is every guy I get into a relationship with wants to fight me. I went to the Go-Jamaica chat room and met a guy. For over four months we talked every day on the telephone and sent pictures and postcards to each other. He never asked for anything. All he wants is me to be honest. He said he doesn't even want to rush to come here. He seems like a good guy. He goes to school and works in Jamaica.

Pastor, do you believe I am dumb to tell you that I am falling for this guy by phone calls and pictures? Please, tell me if I am heading down the wrong path.

K.T., New York, USA

Dear K.T.,

This guy wants to know everything about you and you are being honest. How do you know for sure that he is being honest with you? Has he told you what you need to know? Who are his partners? How many children does he have? Is he in debt? Has he ever been to prison? What are the names of his siblings? How can you reach them? What is the name of his pastor and how can you reach him? What is his address? You need the number of the street, et cetera.

Have someone you know check him out. Oh, yes, if you believe you are in love with him, pay a private investigator to check him out. Don't fall head over heels for a man you have never met. Too many liars and tricksters are around. I am not accusing this man. I am just saying, check him out.

Pastor