Dear Pastor,
I met a guy on the Internet over a year ago. He has done something to me which a normal man would not do. When I took the man he had nothing, I mean nothing. I helped him in any way I could. He has lied to me about being single. He was living with his woman and I didn't know. I didn't know because I am not living in Jamaica. He has lied about everything. From his kids to his mother, that is how lie he is. I still forgave him. When I was supposed to visit Jamaica to meet this man, he moved from his partner's house to get a place of his own.
Forgave and married him
Finally, everything came out because I spoke to the woman. I don't have anything against the lady because she didn't know about me and I didn't know about her. I still went and forgave this man and married him. I wasn't really up to it. I felt I was forced because even on the day of the wedding, I changed the hour two different times.
NOT IN LOVE
He didn't really do anything for me because he has a lot of bills to pay. He would offer what he could, but now as I am writing this letter, I am about to go get a divorce. The state I am in doesn't say you have to wait 10 years to be divorced and he doesn't have to sign any papers. I feel that I was cheated in my life. I am not in love with this man because he has lied to me and has cheated. I gave him lots of chances to be with whom he wanted to be with.
I feel hurt. I am not hurt because of him, because I don't love him, but I feel hurt because I was a victim of Internet love. I want to warn other women to be really careful of these Jamaican men.
All they want is a chance and somebody to help them. I am not saying they are all bad men in Jamaica. You have good men, but the problem is to find them. I am a good woman a good person. This man even gave me a sexually transmitted disease. Now I am wondering if this man has AIDS. I will be checking out myself when I go to my doctor.
I feel stupid
Pastor, please pray for me because I feel so down. I don't care about him. We still talk because he thinks we can work it out, but my option is to leave. We only got married 5 months ago and I wish it had never happened. This man is like a stranger to me. I just feel stupid. I just want him to leave me alone. He doesn't know what he has or what he is about to lose.
T.D.,
Dear T.D.,
Don't blame the Internet. You were naive. I have been warning people to be very careful how they relate to others on the Internet. Some folks lie, lie and lie about themselves on the net.
And the amazing thing was that some people believe them and even fall in love (so they say) with them.
When you found out that this man is a liar and living with a woman, why didn't you end the relationship with him?
Face it, the woman confirmed that he was living with her. Why did you get married to him? You want him to leave you alone. Well, go see a lawyer.
Pastor
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