The Jamaica Star :: Health :: Are we ready for sex?

Dear Counsellor:

My girlfriend and I do a lot of kissing and heavy petting. Sometimes we feel like having sex to fulfil our feelings. But we are both confused as to whether we are ready for sex. How can we know when we are ready?

Concerned Young Adult

Dear Concerned Young Adult:

There is a lot to know before you both make that big step. Here are some questions you should both ask yourselves:

• Is having sex now in agreement with both your moral values?

• Would both your parents approve of you having sex now?

• If the question of pregnancy arises, are you both prepared emotionally and financially to become parents?

• If the relationship breaks up, would you both be happy that you had sex with each other?

• Are you absolutely sure that your partner is not infected with a sexually transmitted infection including HIV, the virus that causes AIDS?

My friend prefers skin to skin

Dear Counsellor:

During one of our regular Friday night domino sessions at Miss Icilda's bar, the question of condom use came up. One man say him prefer skin to skin and him prefer fi dead wid a smile pon him face. How can I prevent my friend from thinking this way?

Bareback

Dear Bareback:

A lot of men think this way, which is very irresponsible.

Although the condom does reduce the sensation somewhat, sex can be enjoyable when you don't have to worry about contracting sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, for which there is no cure. Your friend might not only be putting himself at risk but also his other partners that he is having sex with.

For more information on condom use, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections call the AIDS/STD Helpline at 967-3830, 967-3764 or toll free at

1888-991-4444 or write to AIDS Affairs, c/o The Star 7 North Street, Kingston.