The Jamaica Star :: Tell Me Pastor :: Common salt

Dear Pastor,

I have been in a relationship for a while now. It was not a conventional or traditional relationship. We just used to hook up on weekends when I was off work. Now I got pregnant for the young man and I chose to have the baby because an abortion was not my thing. I found out about the pregnancy at almost six months. I had no belly or anything. The process to do the abortion takes two days and I really couldn't do it.

REFUSES TO HELP

Now the baby is here and the guy refuses to help me with it. I want to tell him to leave me alone and try to do this by myself, but I just can't find the guts. He comes around, plays with the baby one minute and then we end up in bed. Then he leaves without leaving even a toy for the baby. It's a fight to get pampers and wipes. I really want to let him go from the bottom of my heart, but I can't find the will. I will be mad when he is not around and as I see him, I am no longer mad, and this is driving me crazy. I just feel like I am going to snap and maybe kill him.

Want to move

I want to move from where I live and change my number so he won't be able to find me or the baby, but I am currently not working to make the move. I really want to leave him and I just wish he would just leave us alone. I am harbouring bad thoughts for him like death and prison and that is not me, and I wonder too, if that is blocking my blessing where getting a job is concerned. I also feel like he is bad luck in my life. Since I have been with him, I have not been able to get a job. I am at the end of my rope. I don't even think I want advice because I know what you are going to say. I want a solution because this is driving me nuts. It's a good thing the baby is so cute. He looks like me and I love him with all my heart and he makes me keep my sanity. He has just started walking and saying no and dances to every song he hears. He's adorable and is the love of my life. It just hurts me that that subhuman is his father.

Pastor, what do I do?

P.S., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear P. S.,

This guy should be forced to support his child. Any man who does not support his child/children should be taken there. These guys are too wicked.

Is it another baby you want why you are going to bed with this man? Use your head!

Pastor