Dear Pastor,

I am a 23-year-old married woman who has been married for two years. But I have a problem. I think I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend in Jamaica. He calls me and wishes me well all the time. He supports my thoughts and my plans for the future like becoming a future accountant and owning my own hair salon. He basically does the things I wish my husband would do to support me mentally. My husband doubts me a lot, but many people, including strangers, admire me as a smart, intelligent, young woman with my head on my body, including my ex, but my husband, he sees nothing.

Pastor, what should I do? I really enjoy a man who supports and uplifts me instead of putting me down. Please, help me before I say or do something stupid to destroy my marriage.

S., Delaware, USA

Dear S.,

Perhaps you are still in love with your ex-boyfriend in Jamaica, but you got married to another man. And although your husband is not so sensitive and caring as your ex-boyfriend, you should try to make the best of the marriage relationship by teaching your husband how to strengthen the union.

You are an intelligent woman and even if your husband cannot see that you are special, hang on with him and teach him not to be negative.

Pastor