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WEDGIE

Dear Pastor,

I have a problem and I hope you can help me. I have been seeing a guy on and off for about 13 years now. I have been living in New York for 12 of those 13 years. My problem is this.

We are planning on getting married later this year. He is living with another woman. Now I don't let that bother me because I know her situation and she has nowhere to live right now. I told him to tell her to start looking somewhere to live and give her enough money to pay a couple months rent and live for about three months then she will be on her own. This is a young girl, so she should be all right.

SECOND TIME

This is the second time he has asked me to marry him. I wasn't ready the first time because I wanted to see if this is what I really wanted. We've broken up so many times already and got back together. They say if you want to know if someone is yours, let it go. Well, I've let go tons a time already and here we are again.

The problem is, she is telling people if he marries me she is going to let someone kill him because she has been waiting too long for him to marry her.

I know he loves me and I know he doesn't want to marry me to come to the States because he doesn't want to live here. I am going back to Jamaica to live. Right now I am thinking about calling the wedding off in fear of his life.

BLEADING WREATH

This person is so evil that his daughter doesn't want to live with them. People say she practices obeah. I don't believe in it, but people follow her places and come back and tell him, but she denies it. Even though he says he thinks she is doing something to him. She even sent a bleeding heart and a wreath to my house in Jamaica. I am very confused and don't know what to do. My parents already spent a lot of money for the wedding.

Should I go ahead or just count my losses and not marry this guy?

L. J., New York, USA

Dear L. J.,

You shouldn't marry this man. Why should you? This young woman who has been living with him should be his wife, and you should not be encouraging him to ask her to leave. She should go and see a lawyer.

Don't believe everything this man tells you. And please leave the girl at the house alone.

Pastor