Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old female, and I have a very difficult problem getting over my ex-boyfriend. He now resides in the USA. I love this guy to my soul case. I would do anything for him, but the problem is that he got married overseas which was supposed to be a business marriage and he is planning to reside over there. However, the problem is that he still wants to be with me as well as I want to be with him. I know that he loves me, however at times he does things that make me wonder what he really wants. Whenever he has a problem I'm always there for him, but at times when I have problems he seems to be busy.

I'm currently with someone, but because of my love for my ex-boyfriend I'm not able to give my current boyfriend my all. I'm still holding on to him and it's affecting me internally. I cry at nights and just can't go on without him. Whenever I'm with my current boyfriend I think about him. I love my present boyfriend but no matter what I do, I can't get over my ex. I even find myself comparing them. I'm in desperate need of help as to how to get over him.

Please, help me, pastor.

K. P., St Thomas, Jamaica

Dear K. P.,

You can't get your ex boyfriend out of your mind because you believe that your boyfriend truly did a business wedding and he is going to return to marry you. Therefore, with that in mind, you find it difficult to give your love to another man.

Please understand that this man may not return to marry you. Many have made promises to return, but have not done so.

Pastor