The Jamaica Star :: Tell Me Pastor :: Living in hell

Dear Pastor,

I am writing about the lady that said she has been in Canada illegally for 13 years, and her boss filed for her, but she does not like her boss. I can fully understand where she is coming from.

I am in the USA and was working with some people and they found out that I was illegal. They offered to sponsor me and I jumped for the chance. They took me to a lawyer and she started the paper work, but right there they made me signed papers that I could not file for any of my kids until 15 years time. What they wanted me to do was to take care of their two kids until they went to college, then and then only I could file for my kids. However I decided to rough it out until God opened a way, but while I was there I got a message that my daughter got raped. I cried night and day because I couldn't go home and none of my so -called family would take her to the doctor. All they did was cursed my daughter and told her that she is a damn liar and how she is telling lies on their brother and son.

Shaky grounds

I was falling apart and one night I was on the phone crying when the wife came in and saw me. I heard when her husband asked her what's wrong with me and her reply was that I talking to a man. He said to her and another guy I have a great mind calling immigration on her and the guy said, "oh no, don't do that." Yes, I was talking to a man, but all I was asking him to do was to go home and see my daughter and take her to the doctor, but he told me to leave the job and come and help with his daughter and he would go. And he would also help me to get my papers and my kids' papers, if I would help him with his daughter. Oh my Lord, I was so happy.

I went, but it was all a lie. He didn't go. He said there was nothing he could have done, but if I will stay and take care of his daughter, he would help me, so I did. After a few months this man forced me to sleep with him. I said no, this was not the deal and his reply was "you better shut the 'bleep' up for you know you are on shaky grounds with immigration."

Wanted nothing

I wish I could tell you everything, but I can't. I got pregnant. I did not want to have another child for I already had 5 that I could barely take care of. I wanted nothing to do with another child for I had to take care of the other 4 by myself. When I told him no, there is no way in hell I am going to have another child, he said if I aborted the baby, my kids and I will never see the papers and my ass will be deported, so I went ahead and have the child. I did not know that he was obsessed with having a son it was after the baby was born I found out. Now he makes it seems like it's my entire fault to have a child and he has nothing to do with it. If you see this man, he look likes, sorry I can't say it!

Blackmailed

He and his family are walking around and telling people how wicked and bad I am, when it was he who blackmailed me. I want to go public with my story, but he doesn't want that. He said before facing the media, he would rather leave the USA which he did. He went to Santa Domingo, then to Thailand and now some other place, I heard. I don't even know where. I heard that he went to Haiti and worked voodoo to stop me from going public and I started to believe it because no matter how I have tried no one will help me to speak out.

I am tired of writing to Oprah, Montel, Maury, Dr Phill and several others. I am itching to speak out. Why would these people refuse to help me to speak out, unless it is his voodoo from Haiti that is working? A lot of hypocrites will say, "oh, there is no such thing as voodoo." I just want to say being illegal in another country is living hell.

Thank you, pastor, and God be with you always.

B. E., Michigan, USA

Dear B. E.,

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling depressed. I also regret hearing that your daughter was raped. I hope that by now she has seen a family counsellor.

You fell into the hands of people who used you instead of helping you. I hope that those who promised to assist you especially your child's father will keep their word. Pray much and do not give up. Don't allow anybody to intimidate you. Seek the help of an immigration lawyer.

Pastor