My boyfriend and I plan to have children in the future, but for right now all I can think about is that there is something missing from our lives and I took that away from myself when I had that abortion. I cry constantly and there is nothing anyone can say to make things better.

I am pro-choice, but I constantly think about whether or not I made the right one. Please, help me, pastor.

S.M., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear S.M.,

I can only assure you of my prayers. As you know nothing can be done to bring back that pregnancy. Of course you may get pregnant again. So that will be something to look forward to after you have finished your studies. You will always remember you had an abortion, but you can put it behind you and move on. I don't mean to imply that the human mind can switch on and off after a major decision has taken place, but I mean that God can give you the grace to deal with the matter and not cause you to go crazy.